Despite a clear definition in many traditions I never really got what love is.
It's so much more than our human ideas. I can care for someone deeply and have love for them and still try to control their behavior for my ego. It's all meshed in there together until I shake it out.
It's why we often think that if someone loves us they want what's best for us. This is true and at the same time untrue.
Every human has an ego and they want what they want.
It's not personal, no matter how it feels.